You could read the entire books about motherhood and get every bit of advice from your family and friends But you’ll never be able to fully master your own parenting style until you’ve actually experienced it.
There are always mistakes that you make as well as lessons you’ll take away and tears you’ll shed. Every mother learns the difficult method to take care for their child.
There’s no one right or wrong method to parent and guide your child. You can always get suggestions or guidelines when you want your child to have a better sleep and eat more nutritiously, or be more comfortable.
But, the decisions are entirely yours.
Motherhood is a task that nobody knows the best about and we’re all in need of help as moms everywhere.
Mistakes That You Should Avoid Making as a New Mom to Save Your Sanity
The list I have put together is based on my own experiences and what has was successful for me. These ideas might be useful for you and your newborn baby.
Since each child is unique the process of raising a child is often a matter of trial and error. You’ll quickly discover the best fit for your family and you most.
This article is not in any way intended to make you think about your parenting choices however, it is meant to help you gain knowledge that you don’t have. I’m not an expert, I’m just an ordinary mom who has an online blog. Check out the disclaimer and privacy policies for complete disclosure.
Also, make sure to go through the Top 10 Mistakes that New Mothers Make with Their Baby.
1. Not being able to relax on your parenting
There are numerous “rules” when it comes to raising children. We are often told that we must follow strict guidelines in order to be a good mother or to ensure that our children develop well.
Every child is unique and has different needs . So, certain things that worked for a different baby might not be suitable for yours. You must get used to your parenting style and your confidence will build.
There’s no need to concentrate on raising your child in the manner the book or doctor instructed you to. It is possible to follow this advice but relax it by a bit.
My suggestion:Don’t feel like you must adhere with each “rule” that you hear or you’ll be a mess. Flexibility and using your own judgment to break the rules is what makes us experienced mothers.
You must ensure you’re using your common sense when caring for your child. Relax and be sure your doing the Mama thing right.
The most important aspect is to ensure that they have an environment that is safe and secure and then everything else will take care of itself.
2. The baby is not sleeping when it is asleep
You’ve likely heard this advice before for new mothers. After the 3rd trimester of sleep deprivation and the possible 20or more hours of exhausting work and the late in feedings for your newborn You’ll be exhausted!
You’ll never have as much rest like you can when you’re a new parent. It is recommended that they sleep 16-17 hours a day from the beginning!
Naturally, the sleep you get will break into smaller chunks during changing diapers and feedings But you are able to get your rest throughout this time.
Furthermore, since you’re not working and people are eager to assist you and you’ve got a reason to cancel any obligations you have for the near future. Profit from that!
The most difficult thing for me about this was that meals had to be prepared and the house wasn’t kept clean it’s own. I’ve always felt that I could make a better usage of my time in naps instead of sleeping.
But, I came to the realization that a sleep-deprived mom is a miserable mom. When you are relaxed and restful, you will be the happy and healthy mom.
My suggestion: Force yourself to have a nap at least once every day. Keep the laundry to an additional time or ask for the assistance of your friends family members, or even an experienced housekeeper. You’ll be grateful you did.
3. Continuing to Breastfeed When You’re Not Producing Enough Milk
A lot of women are fortunate to have a plentiful amount of breastmilk, however certain women aren’t. It’s also typical that you won’t have an abundance immediately however it will begin to come in a matter of days following the birth.
It’s essential to provide sufficient liquid milk (breastmilk as well as formula) to meet the nutritional requirements of your infant. If your child loses weight too quickly immediately after the delivery (more than 10 percent) You may want to think about supplementing your formula with it.
In the first few weeks and days it’s all about quantity over quality! Your baby must drink the most milk possible regardless of the source it comes from.
There are indications of a child who doesn’t get enough milk. He’ll get fussy after a meal and his pee will turn dark orange/yellow, and he will not be gaining weight.
My suggestion:Do yourself a favor and ease the pressure on yourself to find a way to increase the amount of breastmilk you drink and also supplement it with formula. If you are still pumping and nurse, and see an increase in your supply, it is possible to switch back to.
However, taking that huge stressor off your shoulders could result in a better birth.
4. The comparison of your child to other babies
Each baby is unique in many ways. Twins or siblings will be different from their sleeping patterns to eating habits, to milestones in their development.
It’s not doing you much good to continually be comparing your baby’s development to other babies by the number of hours an infant sleeps at night, or the length of time a baby nursed for.
I understand how frustrating it is to find out that a family member’s child sleeps for nine hours straight , but you’re only able to enjoy a 3-hour period of sleep. But, you’re doing your best , and it illustrates the differences between children.
My suggestion: Be knowledgable of the ways other babies grow however, don’t try to compare it to your own. Your child will develop how she is supposed to in her own unique way.
5. Paying attention to what other people say
You’ll get number of tips regarding taking care of your baby. Everyone will be eager to share with your opinions and experience and you’ll need to receive all the assistance you receive.
But, if you stick to the advice of everyone else as the best thing for your child You may be a bit overwhelmed for hours trying to catch up. These mom blogs offer lots of excellent advice However, your experience might differ from my experience.
My suggestion: Trust your own intuition and not what the majority of people suggests. Mothers were born with this capacity to look after our child in the best way we can.
This natural ability will appear very quickly. Don’t be a slave to do the identical thing others did to raise your child.
6. Stressing out too much
It’s common for parents of newborns to be extremely cautious and be concerned about every little thing. A tiny sniffle or a skin marks on that delicate newborn can make a mother a nervous wreck.
While it’s important to stay well-informed and aware of the potential negative things that can occur to your child but you shouldn’t keep that attitude constantly.
My tip:Babies are very resilient particularly in the care and affection from their families. Be alert for any indications of injury or illness but most of the time your baby will be fine.
We aren’t able to keep our kids in a bubble all day So why would we ever want to start?
7. The house is empty and you’re not leaving.
When you’re a new mom is a good idea to keep your child safe in the house until the longest time you can. Even though you’d like to know about bacteria that could infect infants however, it’s equally crucial to leave the house.
It’s happened to me. In the same pajamas for the entire day with my baby. It was difficult to leave the house since it meant I needed put on some real clothes.
In reality, getting your life together can improve your mood! Fresh air and some sunshine can be beneficial for children and adults.
My suggestion:Get out of the home whether it’s for a stroll down the street or for a quick visit to Target. If you must wait until your partner return home from work in time to take you out then that’s fine.
If you’re concerned about taking your baby outside in the fresh air, it should be a breeze so long as the temperature isn’t warm or cold. Avoid indoor establishments such as food establishments or shops where are prone to germs however, you should opt for outside areas when the weather is acceptable.
Always consult with your pediatric physician if there are medical reasons why your child should not be allowed to be outside.
8. Your baby isn’t on a regular schedule
The following program can help your baby in the development of or improve sleep habits , as well as general behavior for your child.
For the first few weeks, it’s going to be difficult to stick to a plan and you shouldn’t at this moment. But, after 1 month, you’ll be making decisions about
Being able to predict the times of day that your child will be sleeping, eating and play will reduce anxiety and stress for both you as well as your partner. If your child is happy then you’ll be too.
My suggestion: Get your baby familiar with a routine in the early years. This will allow them to know what’s next, which will result in happy baby.
As your baby grows an older child and you’ll be happy to be capable of planning outings around your baby’s schedule as you’ll be aware of the exact time that your child will require to get something from you.
9. Not asking for help
It’s natural to be skeptical of anyone else to take care of your infant at the beginning. However, you shouldn’t place the whole burden of caring for the baby on your own.
Because you don’t have anyone who breastfeeds your child Most of the help you’ll get will come by making dinner, having errands to run or even cleaning your home.
The simple act of taking responsibility for certain of these jobs will be extremely helpful!
My suggestion:Seek assistance for cleaning the home, making meals, or just helping the baby sleep. The initial few weeks with the baby can be stressful so you should take some time!
It is likely that you have relatives or acquaintances who will offer assistance for you at no cost If you’re willing, employ services such as household cleaners, grocery delivery or take-out restaurants to ease your life!
10. Too many visitors touching your baby
Everyone wants to meet you and your child for the first few weeks when you are home. However, both adults and older children may carry germs that may not be very dangerous to them, yet could be deadly to babies who are just born.
Even an adult who has common colds can transmit the germs on to an infant and cause an illness known as RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Viral). It is a fairly common illness in infants however it could result in severe complications, hospitalizations or even death.
You cannot be too cautious about making sure your baby is safe. So, try to limit the time they spend with other children for the first few months.
My suggestion: If you need to entertain guests ensure that they wash their hands thoroughly or make use of a natural antibacterial cleanser prior to contact with your child. Also, ensure that everyone knows that they even have the slightest cough or cold, they should avoid them.
In particular, during cold and flu seasons, be sure to keep your child away from not just strangers at the supermarket as well as your family and family members too.
11. Not Being Aware of What You Eat If You’re Breastfeeding
You are able to take whatever food and drink you like during nursing (in moderate amounts) but it’s important to stay aware of the way your baby reacts to the food.
Certain foods can cause irritation for infants who drink breastmilk.
A few of the foods you should be aware of include: broccoli and cauliflower, cabbage, spicy food and dairy.
My suggestion:For the first few weeks, be aware of your baby’s behavior following certain meals. If you notice any changes in their behavior or digestive habits or appetite, you can try cutting the food for a few days to note the positive effects.
There may be gassiness, excessive spit-ups/throw ins or the appearance of hives.
This shouldn’t last more than the first few weeks as they’ll soon get used to the various foods you consume. But, you might need to modify your diet if things don’t improve.
12. The cost of buying too many baby clothing
If you’re a first-time mother, you’ll probably be more excited to get the most adorable baby clothes as you could. The adorable tiny dresses and baby button-down shirts can be way too much!
But, at this point of a stage it is likely that your child will remain in pajamas with feet or in onesies! The rest is an inconvenience to put off and put on, and doesn’t work well for diaper changes, spit-ups or naps.
Dressing up for a formal event isn’t a frequent occurrence because it’s not a good idea to take babies outside of the home.
In addition, your child will outgrow of these outfits so quickly that you’ll end up with many clothes that have tags still attached. I was a bit annoyed when I had to change sizes into the following size however, I had clothes that were never put in her wardrobe!
My suggestion:Borrow baby clothes or buy them from second-hand stores. There are precious baby clothes that have been worn onceor not even once in Garage sales Facebook Marketplace and an area consignment shop.
It is likely that you will discover mothers unloading baby clothes often, as they are such a quick use that many people are eager to clear all the mess out of the home!